My Husband, the Hero

Whew! Things have been super crazy for me the past few weeks!!

I'm FINALLY getting a chance to write about what an amazing thing my husband did last weekend. He's legitimately a hero. I promise, I'm not just saying that because I love the guy.

So, his ex-wife. They have a complicated relationship and an ugly past. And she is more than unreliable when it comes to their children. Which only complicates things for everyone. Let's rewind to last weekend....

It's Saturday morning. Hubby's ex is supposed to pick up the girls at noon and keep them until 5. We see on facebook that she was in the hospital Friday night...the baby had no heartbeat for a while and they almost delivered. After a round of steroids the baby stabilized and they sent her home, but she was due back Saturday evening. Of course her appointment time conflicted with the time she was supposed to have the girls. So she was going to bring them back an hour early. She wanted to take them trick or treating at Wal Mart, so she asked us to get costumes together for them. We did, and had to explain to the girls why, so they were getting excited and looking forward to it. She refused to pick them up herself, wanting to send someone after them. Due to complicated past issues, hubby insisted it be her to pick them up or they weren't leaving. So she decided to take her other children trick or treating and said she would get the girls after.

At this point, I told my guy that I would be surprised if she didn't put herself in labor walking around the store for an hour carrying a toddler.

A little after 1 she told us she would be there in 20 minutes. The girls are already confused as to why she hasn't shown up, and why they don't get to trick or treat now. She pulls into the store next to the house, where hubby works part time. "Come out here, I need you" she texted him. She was literally screaming in pain. We know now what had happened was that when she tried to stand up to get out of the car her previous c-section scar, which was vertical, completely ruptured. She was bleeding out, internally. Pressure was near zero for her baby, who wasn't breathing and whose heart had stopped. Being the good man that he is, my husband called her parents and told them they needed to come and get her and take her to the hospital, like, now. She still wanted to get the girls and drive them to her parents house herself. Hubby had to half carry her from the driver's seat to the passenger's side. Her parents didn't like being told what to do, and told him he was exaggerating. They tried to just send one person to bring her back to their house. No, he insisted, you both come and get her to the hospital. Now.

We brought the girls to her so she could explain what was happening and why she couldn't pick them up. She cried, worried the girls sick. It was 1:44 when I got back to the house, her parents had not shown up yet. I don't know when they showed up or what time she got to the hospital, but I do know that by 2:07 she was headed back to the OR for a c-section and an emergency hysterectomy. By 2:11 the baby was out. 5-10 more minutes and neither of them would have made it.

Her and her parents have shocked everyone by personally and publicly thanking my husband for saving two lives that day. Had she been anywhere else when it happened, things would not have turned out so well. His ex wife is home and the baby is at Children's. She was 30 weeks along when he was born, and he was only 2 pounds. He's already gained 7 ounces and may be home by Christmas.

Other than when we took the girls to her hospital room to visit her, she hasn't seen them. Except for when I called her so they could talk to her after she woke up from surgery, she hasn't talked to them. Her parents took the girls for a few hours while I went wedding dress shopping (yay!!) but their mom was up at Children's all day. As far as we understand, she drove herself an hour away....a week after surgery.

The situation continues to baffle me. But I do know that I married the best possible person to be in this situation with. He blows my mind with his kindness and love for everyone...even those who have extremely wronged him in the past. My husband, the hero <3